Sunday, 5 February 2012

Being proven wrong.

I didn't believe that anyone is ever necessarily a 'perfect match' in terms of relationships. That was, until I met the guy I'm going to refer to as Mr. A. He is basically me.

We have pretty much everything you could think of in common. We like the same music, have the same hobbies, have the same job (we even teach the same year group), have the same sense of humour, are an even match in terms of intellect, confidence and ambition... we could not be a better match. He even drinks green tea.

He's possibly a more exaggerated version of me, in that he's louder, more geeky, more intelligent, more confident and more positive, but I like that. He's the first person I've met in a while who really challenges me, if that makes sense?

I have only been involved with him out of group situations for a week but it feels like I've known him forever. We went to the pub last Friday after a conference and spent five hours sat chatting without a single silent or awkward moment and have not stopped texting since. He invited me out with his housemates last night and we had an absolutely brilliant night which included sharing a few cheeky kisses on the dance-floor. We had to call it a night earlier than usual because the snow was getting pretty thick by this point, so we attempted to get home, got as far as we could on the Night Bus before it terminated and then he walked me home. I obviously did not send him home (given that I live about an hours walk from his house and the snow was about 5cm deep and getting worse) so he came in and we ended up sat chatting for hours.

It felt so comfortable and so, so natural, as if we spent every Saturday night sat with a cup of tea talking. Then we fell asleep cuddled up at gone 6am, slept for about 2 hours before getting up and doing pretty much the same thing: chatting and drinking tea. Conversation got a bit deep but we found out so much about one another, and even in those deeper things we are so alike it's borderline frightening.

It sounds funny to say though, based on all that, but he's not really my type. He's geeky and louder than me and he says the wrong things at the wrong times so he comes across as a bit strange at the first meeting. I normally wouldn't go for someone like him but I guess this is proof that I don't actually know what I want and that I should just throw caution to the wind and judge any opportunity based on my gut instinct.

I like that my cynical outlook on dating/relationships could be challenged like this. I like being proven wrong...


Yvonne said...

I'd kill myself (or him) if my boyfriend was that similar to me LOL! Sounds like it works for you though :) Hope it all works out!

bailey j said...

doesn't it feel amazing? finding someone you can have a conversation with without missing a beat AND share a few "cheeky kisses" on the dancefloor with is jackpot..seriously.

Ashley N. said...

I say give it a try :)

Colette Ngo Ndjom said...

everyone eventually finds the right fit. It might be somebody with whom you have a lot in common or your total opposite. But what matters the most is that you feel comfortable and happy with him regardless of if you have affinities or not. And reading your post I can sense that you want to let him in, and give him a chance, and ain't nothing wrong with that. Just follow your heart, not your brain ;) Good luck!

Halina said...

I feel it is so hard to know what you want unless you've been in a relationship for a long time. I'm glad that you really passed what your brain said and followed your heart. You have to always follow your heart on these kind of things :)

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